repair rumah

Dah lama tak update blog.....awal march sibuk repair rumah sebab putera aku yang ke 2 nak kahwin dah. Majlis nikah pada 2 mei 2010...manakala majlis sambut menantu rumah aku pada 9 mei 2010. Majlis bertunang simple jer....anta cincin belah rotan rm 500 dengan kek dan dibalas oleh pihak perempuan dengan buah and baju sepasang. Alhamdulillah segala-galanya mudah.

Bakar bayi hingga rentung

Tak faham aku dengan kerajaan malaysia ni. Bukan nak memperbetulkan gejala zina yang berleluasa....tapi nak sediakan banyak-banyak pusat memelihara perempuan yang hamil luar nikah agar mereka tidak membuang anak hasil zina itu. The root of the problem ialah ZINA. Kalau tak de zina maka tak delah buang bayi merata. Kempen Anda Bijak Jauhi Zina patut lah diperluaskan dan tanamkan dan didik remaja jangan berzina. Lelaki-lelaki jahat yang merogol adik ke...kakak ke..sepupu ke atau sesiapa saje yang namanya Perempuan dan hasil rogolan itu ialah kehamilan atau tidak, mesti dikenakan hukuman seberat-beratnya.Zina adalah salah satu daripada 7 dosa-dosa besar tuan-tuan. Keberkatan umur, hidup, rezki dan lain-lain akan Allah tarik dari orang yang berzina semasa hidup lagi .....selagi tidak bertaubat. Mati nanti lagilah azab Allah yang dasyat tak tertanggung oleh manusia.Tapi kesian lah pulak anak-anak perempuan yang dirogol oleh bapa atau keluarga sendiri tiada tempat mengadu....beritahu kat mak...mak tak percaya....atau malu nak buat dakwaan. Mak-mak macam ni seeloknya dicampak je kedalam gaung biar mati mereput...Kepada remaja semua...JANGAN KAMU MENDEKATI ZINA....jangan ada budaya couple-couple....jaga batas-batas pergaulan lelaki perempuan. Bila dah berdua tanpa nikah orang ketiga ialah syaitan.

No Panties on valentine's day

Entah siapa punya perancangan entah nak merosakkan muda mudi islam di malaysia ni. Mempelopori benda-benda yang merosakkan akhlak remaja.....berzina dah menjadi kebiasaan...9 bulan lepas valentine ni nanti adalah yang sakan buang bayi merata tempat....bukan sekadar buang, bakar lagi bayi tu....sekarang ni remaja dah balik zaman jahiliyah....nak salahkan siapa? remaja itu sendiri.....mak bapak atau pemerintah? Siapa yang mengalakkan kerosakkan ini? Atau ketidak pedulian masyarakat malaysia? Lantaklah korang....azab kubor masing-masing yang dapat.....Ampunilah aku Ya Allah ...atas hambamu yang lemah ini tidak melakukan sesuatu untuk membetulkan kepincangan masyarakat. Tapi azab Allah akan turun kepada keseluruhan kaum yang membiarkan dosa-dosa besar ini berlaku tak kira tok imam ke, ulamak ke, yang melakukan dosa itu ke....sanggup ke aku menghadapi azab ini?

tazkirah yang aku cilok dari mana ntah...tak ingat

Daripada Sayyidina Khalid bin Al-Walid Radiallahu'anhu telah berkata:

Telah datang seorang arab desa kepada Rasulullah S.A.W yang mana dia telah menyatakan tujuannya :

" Wahai Rasulullah! sesungguhnya kedatangan aku ini adalah untuk bertanya engkau mengenai apa yang akan sempurnakan diriku di dunia dan akhirat."

Maka baginda S.A.W telah berkata kepadanya :

" Tanyalah apa yang engkau kehendaki "

Dia berkata : Aku mahu dimurahkan rezeki oleh Allah
Baginda S.A.W menjawab : Sentiasa berada dalam keadaan bersih ( dari hadas ) nescaya Allah akan memurahkan rezeki

Dia berkata : Aku mahu menjadi orang yang alim
Baginda S.A.W menjawab : Takutlah kepada Allah maka engkau akan jadi orang yang alim

Dia berkata : Aku mahu menjadi orang paling kaya
Baginda S.A.W menjawab : Jadilah orang yang yakin pada diri maka engkau akan jadi orang paling kaya

Dia berkata : Aku mahu menjadi orang yang adil
Baginda S.A.W menjawab: Kasihanilah manusia yang lain sebagaimana engkau kasih pada diri sendiri maka jadilah engkau seadil-adil manusia

Dia berkata : Aku mahu menjadi orang yang paling baik
Baginda S.A.W menjawab: Jadilah orang yang berguna kepada masyarakat maka engkau akan jadi sebaik-baik manusia

Dia berkata : Aku mahu menjadi orang yang istimewa di sisi Allah
Baginda S.A.W menjawab : Banyakkan zikrullah nescaya engkau akan jadi orang istimewa di sisi Allah

Dia berkata : Aku mahu disempurnakan imanku
Baginda S.A.W menjawab : Perelokkan akhlakmu nescaya imanmu akan sempurna

Dia berkata : Aku mahu termasuk dalam golongan orang yang muhsinin (baik).
Baginda S.A.W menjawab : Beribadatlah kepada Allah seolah-olah engkau melihatNya dan jika engkau tidak merasa begitu sekurangnya engkau yakin Dia tetap melihat engkau maka dengan cara ini engkau akan termasuk golongan muhsini

Dia berkata : Aku mahu termasuk dalam golongan mereka yang taat
Baginda S.A.W menjawab : Tunaikan segala kewajipan yang difardhukan maka engkau akan termasuk dalam golongan mereka yang taat

Dia berkata : Aku mahu berjumpa Allah dalan keadaan bersih daripada dosa
Baginda S.A.W menjawab : Bersihkan dirimu daripada najis dosa nescaya engkau akan menemui Allah dalam keadaan suci daripada dosa

Dia berkata : Aku mahu dihimpun pada hari qiamat di bawah cahaya
Baginda S.A.W menjawab: Jangan menzalimi seseorang maka engkau akan dihitung pada hari qiamat di bawah cahaya

Dia berkata : Aku mahu dikasihi oleh Allah pada hari qiamat
Baginda S.A.W menjawab : Kasihanilah dirimu dan kasihanilah orang lain nescaya Allah akan mengasihanimu pada hari qiamat

Dia berkata : Aku mahu dihapuskan segala dosaku
Baginda S.A.W menjawab : Banyakkan beristighfar nescaya akan dihapuskan (kurangkan) segala dosamu

Dia berkata : Aku mahu menjadi semulia-mulia manusia
Baginda S.A.W menjawab : Jangan mengesyaki sesuatu perkara pada orang lain nescaya engkau akan jadi semulia-mulia manusia

Dia berkata : Aku mahu menjadi segagah-gagah manusia
Baginda S.A.W menjawab : Sentiasa menyerah diri ( tawakkal ) kepada Allah nescaya engkau akan jadi segagah-gagah manusia

Dia berkata : Aku mahu termasuk dalam golongan mereka yang dikasihi oleh Allah dan rasulNya
Baginda S.A.W menjawab : Cintailah segala apa yang disukai oleh Allah dan rasulNya maka engkau termasuk dalam golongan yang dicintai oleh mereka

Dia berkata : Aku mahu diselamatkan dari kemurkaan Allah pada hari qiamat
Baginda S.A.W menjawab : Jangan marah kepada orang lain nescaya engkau akan terselamat daripada kemurkaan Allah dan rasulNya

Dia berkata : Aku mahu diterima segala permohonanku
Baginda S.A.W menjawab : Jauhilah makanan haram nescaya segala permohonanmu akan diterimaNya

Dia berkata : Aku mahu agar Allah menutupkan segala keaibanku pada hari qiamat
Baginda S.A.W menjawab : Tutuplah keburukan orang lain nescaya Allah akan menutup keaibanmu pada hari qiamat

Dia berkata : Siapa yang terselamat daripada dosa?
Baginda S.A.W menjawab : Orang yang sentiasa mengalir air mata penyesalan, mereka yang tunduk pada kehendakNya dan mereka yang ditimpa kesakitan

Dia berkata : Apakah sebesar-besar kebaikan di sisi Allah?
Baginda S.A.W menjawab : Elok budi pekerti, rendah diri dan sabar dengan ujian (bala )

Dia berkata : Apakah sebesar-besar kejahatan di sisi Allah?
Baginda S.A.W menjawab : Buruk akhlak dan sedikit ketaatan

Dia berkata : Apakah yang meredakan kemurkaan Allah di dunia dan akhirat?
Baginda S.A.W menjawab : Sedekah dalam keadaan sembunyi (tidak diketahui) dan menghubungkan kasih sayang

Dia berkata: Apakan yang akan memadamkan api neraka pada hari qiamat?
Baginda S.A.W menjawab : Sabar di dunia dengan bala dan musibah

Telah berkata Imam Mustaghfirin:

" aku tidak pernah menjumpai hadis yang besar dan merangkumi kesempurnaan agama dan bermanafaat
selain hadis ini.... "

Politik UMNO dan Rusuah/Rasuah

Hari ni teringat nak tulis pasal keadaan politik negara lak. Aku nak tergelak bila laki aku kata orang-orang UMNO Selangor ni macam pelesit menghurung kesana sini nak cari tempat nak hisap darah tapi tak dapat. Kes baru yang keluar kat berita utama tv main stream media. Sorang lelaki gemuk dengan muka birat semacam (muka orang-orang rasuah ni memang birat-birat) diinterview oleh wartawan mengenai aduannya kepada MACC (Ni satu lagi badan rasuah yang mengambil tindakan berpilih-pilih) terhadap MB Selangor Tan Sri Khalid Ibrahim. Hanya kerana Khalid IBrahim nak duduk dalam committee member Yayasan Basmi Kemiskinan (YBK) orang-orang UMNO ni menuduh beliau mengugut dan menyalah gunakan kuasa. Mestilah MB nak pantau apa projek yang dibuat oleh zaman Khir Toyo dulu.....sebab selalunya orang-orang UMNO ni buat projek tapi sebenarnya adalah lubok duit bagi orang-orang UMNO. Depan je guna nama Yayasan Basmi Kemiskinan tapi keuntungan keuntungan dari projek mereka faraid sesama mereka dulu selepas tu adalah sikit-sikit 2, 3 ribu bagi rakyat miskin. Orang-orang UMNO kaut 80% dulu selepas tu 20% keuntungan yang tinggal barulah untuk rakyat miskin. Dalam masa buat projek tu tender bagi kat the highest contract bidder yang dapat bagi suapan tertinggi kat pemimpin-pemimpin UMNO dan pencacai pencacai UMNO selangor. Lagi tinggi kau bagi rasuah lagi cerah peluang engkau untuk dapat projek kontractor. Itu sebab orang-orang UMNO berebut-rebut nak jadi pimpinan tertinggi, nak jadi Adun, nak jadi MP sebab dalam masa sepenggal je engkau boleh jadi kaya raya....walaupun engkau tu hanya pembantu pribadi pimpinan UMNO...engkau boleh kaya raya.....kat dunia ajelah...akhirat belum tentu.....

copy lagi.......

I copy and paste this article from the star specially for my 2 girls to read.

Taking the first step
The Gap by TRECIA TAN SHU HUI

LAST month, I went to my uncle’s house for the school holidays. My cousin has everything, from PS2 to iPod Touch to an impressive DVD collection.

I was there for 21 days and they were quite meaningless. I just realised that now. So what if I’ve watched more than 40 movies? Or played a couple of video games? Or caught up on my favourite TV series?

So what if I’ve spent more time in front of the computer these last three weeks than in the entire year? All that just wore me out.

Yes, I am sad to be back home because my mum is kind of grounding me. This is like what happens when summer break ends in the United States, except that it’s summer all year round here. The thing is, it’s time for me to face reality and do what I’m supposed to do. It’s time for me to grow up ... until after the SPM, of course.

Believe it or not, I’ve learnt a lot from my stay. I learnt that I may have watched 40 movies, but only a couple of them are memorable, so I’ve wasted about 70 hours of my life. I learnt that completing all levels in a video game is only satisfying for about a day, and isn’t worth getting a blister on your thumb for that.

I learnt that the computer isn’t everything, although it means a lot. I learnt that getting celebrities to tweet you back is exciting, but getting someone to praise you in real life is much better. And I learnt that blogging is interesting, but nothing beats writing on a piece of paper.

I also realised one thing that I’ve been denying all along – I am addicted to the computer.

At the start of 2009, my class teacher told me a story about a very smart girl who scored all As for her PMR examination. Then her parents made the mistake of getting her a laptop as a reward.

The girl couldn’t control herself. She was obsessed with some computer game and started to skip classes. Her parents took the laptop away. She threatened to starve herself so they gave it back to her. She locked herself in her room and just played games online. At last, the school expelled her for skipping too many classes.

I know my “addiction” isn’t that serious. But the three weeks made me realise that if I had a laptop of my own, I might end up like that girl. The fact is I had fallen behind in various subjects months ago. And if I were to retrace the “cause” of that, I’d say it started when I had a twitter account. Blogging just made things worse.

I couldn’t sleep last night. Why? Because I thought monsters were going to attack me. I had watched a horror film earlier, so that was perfectly normal.

But the second reason why I couldn’t sleep was Physics and Chemistry. These are my worst subjects, partly because I don’t like them. To be honest, I couldn’t catch up with Physics even before I started twittering. But it made it worse. I could have spent more time on revision, but I spent more hours blogging.

And Chemistry? Well, I was lost over one chapter. You know how some chapters are related to each other? So I got lost in all of them.

Actually, I’ve thought of all this before, but they never kept me awake at night. Then I knew what triggered it.

My eldest brother has received an offer to take up an Honours degree in some finance-related subject at Melbourne University. He is this smart guy in my family whom everyone worships. My parents have been scolded by him but they didn’t give him the “respect-your-parents-because-we’re-older-than-you” lecture. Dad’s password even has his initials on it. (Don’t worry, you can’t hack it.)

My parents even wanted to name our new puppy Aussie because he is studying there. Of course, I objected vehemently because it sounded vulgar in Cantonese. And you can see the glow on mum’s face whenever she mentions him to some random stranger.

My brother is this clever, perfect child in mum’s eyes. And she expects me to follow in his footsteps. She has lost hope in my second brother, but since he is charming and athletic, he can survive in this huge, dangerous world.

As I’m socially awkward and not that athletic, I need to be smart. Although mum doesn’t expect me to score the same excellent results as my brother, she does expect me to ace my exams.

Although I’m cross with her for placing too much hope on me, the thing is, I know she’s doing this for a reason. Sometimes, clichéd as it sounds, “it’s all for your own good” is true. That’s why I’m taking my first big step.

Which, of course, is to come clean about my addiction. This is why I’m writing this article.

The second step is to quit blogging because it takes up the most time. The third is to stop using Facebook. That should be easier because if my friends really want to contact me, they can always text me.

Finally, I have to stop tweeting. That may be a bit difficult. I can’t really quit cold turkey because, well, an addict is an addict. Apparently, they don’t have some patch or gum for it, unlike tobacco.

So, I’m taking the last one slowly and just try to cut down. It may take a few months to really quit. By then, let’s hope I would have caught up on lessons. Maybe, who knows, the SPM might be over.

I’m on my way to step one now. And I’m going to quote the late King of Pop: “This is it.” Wish me luck!

kehidupan

Artikel ni aku cilok dari the star. Very good reminder for all the parents out there. Aku rasa nurul lee ni macam aku juga. Tak hantar anak yang baru primary school ke tuition or having high academic expectations from the children. alhamdulillah anak aku okay je....dapat peluang masuk asrama lagi, tapi anak aku baru duduk asrama satu malam dah talipon nak keluar asrama. he...he...homesick. Habis je orientation murid-murid tingkatan 1 aku pun sebagai ibu mithali yang dapat merasakan kemurungan anak, mengeluarkan anak aku Iman pada hari keempat diasrama.


Tears and fears
By NURUL LEE

A mother’s behaviour on results day prompts another to ask what we really want for our children.

THERE was excitement in the air. Parents were busy chatting but they could hide their anxiety. Amidst the laughter, I could see the worry in their eyes. They say the eyes show your real emotion. Well, there sure was a lot to worry about.

It was the day the UPSR (Year Six examination) results would be released. Sleepless nights, pounding hearts, unfinished chores ... These exam-results syndromes are normal for kids and their parents.

The hall was abuzz with activity. Pupils laughing with their peers or talking non-stop as their eyes searched for their parents. Some pupils sat looking at their busy friends. They looked pale, as if someone had squeezed the air from their lungs. Some parents stood outside the hall, preferring the fresh air to the “stress-tinged” air inside. Couldn’t blame them.

Now I was among the anxious parents. I sat way behind my daughter, who was seated in the middle row with her friends. She looked back, saw me and waved. I nodded. Half an hour earlier, she had called me frantically on the phone to ask what time I would be in her school.

As the teachers walked in with papers in their hands, the noise subsided. A brief analyses of the year’s results was read out by the coordinator for Year Six and there was applause from the parents. Then came the moment of truth ...

Pupils who had scored straight As were called out one by one and each of them stepped up on stage grinning from cheek to cheek. When my daughter went up, I felt just fine, but she was crying madly. I wondered why; maybe she did not expect to score 5As. Anyway, I said a thankful prayer quietly.

After the last name was called, what I saw made an impact on me. One mother just dashed from the back of the hall to the front, crying. For a moment I thought she was parent of the last pupil on stage, but I was wrong.

She hugged her daughter seated in the front row and consoled her, saying it was all right that she had not scored all As. Her kid was crying. This mum kissed her daughter’s forehead and walked straight to the back of the hall, wiping her tears as she walked. She did not care about the other parents looking at her.

I was thinking: How much pressure do we put on these 12-year-olds? Why must they endure the stress of trying to achieve perfect grades?

Is it wise to push them to the limit? All they did was study, go for tuition, and do endless homework and countless practice questions. Where was the joy and fun that they rightfully needed?

I don’t remember going through all that in Year Six. I ran, played and learnt how to cycle. I rode my mum’s big bicycle till I fell and hurt my knee. And I still can laugh about that. My parents never put pressure on me to score. Whatever the grades on my report card, they just smiled and signed it. They knew I studied hard and played like mad, too …. just like my peers then. I didn’t have any tuition.

Comparing my days and now, I see so much has changed. Society looks up to top scorers without realising we are actually creating unbalanced pupils. At Primary level, why can’t we just let them enjoy their life, like we used to?

To those who got straight As, congratulations. But what about the others who did not? Their self-esteem would have dropped a notch and this would affect with them throughout their Secondary school life. And we’d start blaming them again. Is that fair?

My daughter did not want to go for the school tuition before the UPSR. All she did for the past nine months was watch TV. Ask her about the Indonesian, Korean or Malay dramas and she could relate them as if she was the writer of the scripts! Ask her about school work and she would say it was somewhere in her bag!

I told her that if she wanted 5As, she would have to work on it herself. She just gave me that innocent grin and I often wondered what she was thinking about.

As a parent, I think scoring top marks is not the main thing in life. How you cope with problems that may crop up throughout your life is more important. Survival skills are more important than just chewing school texts and regurgitating them in an examination.

So, let your kids be kids. Let them play, run, cycle and climb trees. They will be children only once in their lifetime, so don’t rob them of their childhood. Don’t send them for tuition from Year One or push them away from us by telling them to score all As or else …

Let’s teach our kids how to be human, how to interact with others, how and why they should obey God’s rules, how to help others and recognise “bad people”. Teach them how to survive in this cruel world! Reflect on how things were in our young days and ask, “Are we being fair to our kids today?”